Now that Nathan’s girlfriend’s existence (and name) is no longer a mystery, I can easily foresee another wave of bitchiness towards her and Nathan from some of those who call themselves Nathan’s or Stana’s fans. So before you start sending…
Yeah, all of that. When I first came upon the Castle fandom, I was initially struck most by the level of intelligence and clarity of understanding of the show by many of the fans. The depth of analysis made me want to squeal and hug everyone because “Yes! That’s what I thought too!”
Then I came upon the slightly disturbing thing called “Stanathan” shipping. Look, personally, I find it a little creepy when fans start shipping real life people. Like many have said before me, what right do you have to pry into their personal lives when you don’t even know them? However, as long as that shipping doesn’t actually interfere with the lives of the people in question, then what the hey! Feel free to have fun with it.
But then I was really just saddened when I saw how some fan’s obsession with “Stanathan” turned vicious, and that’s just not cool. Beyond the fact that they should be commended for keeping their private lives private, have any of you crazed shippers who flame Nathan, Stana, or either one of their girlfriends/boyfriends ever thought of the fact that when you “ship” them so crazily, it puts a strain on the friendship between Nathan and Stana? Have you ever thought of the fact that your interference in something that is none of your business is actually detrimental to the show?
Let’s be honest here. Nathan and Stana are both consummate professionals. I think we’ve seen enough proof of that through their commitment to their jobs, both on Castle and with their individual projects. That being said, you can’t possibly think that hearing, reading, and/or seeing all these frankly disquieting posts where people demand that they date each other and criticize their chosen significant others don’t cause an awkwardness between them that shouldn’t have to exist. Both Nathan and Stana come off as easy-going people and are probably able to shrug it off with good will and laughter, but still, I imagine that enduring years of the same abuse has affected them and their friendship somehow—and not in a good way.
Long story short, if you want to ship real life people, that’s your call. But can you do it in a way that’s non-intrusive and doesn’t adversely affect the celebrities in question?